Friday, September 25, 2015

Wow... Happy Fifth Birthday... and a Very Fond Farewell



Here we are.

Wow.

Five years ago, I couldn't even imagine the moment recorded above.   I was - we were - so incredibly, happily naive, and yet, here we are.  Older yes, hopefully wiser.  As so many know, there is a wistfulness to all of this; a tendency to look backwards.

But there are even more reasons to look forwards.  We do, and the kid's joie de vivre carries us along in the current.  How fortunate we are.  And I think that is one of the greatest gifts of perspective:  knowing just how fortunate we are.

I knew when I started putting my thoughts to pixel that this was a finite thing.  I had a story to share.  But now, I feel increasingly that it is no longer my story to tell.  I certainly cannot tell it with Evelyn's dramatic flair, Colin's creative complexities and Keith's wild exuberance.  And, of course, there is Malcolm, reminding us all that it's "MY TURN TO TALK".

So, I will step aside.  I've had my time to talk for them and about them.  It is, truly, their turn.

Thank you for sharing our journey.








Tuesday, September 8, 2015

Our Summer, Part 2

There were too many great pictures to choose from, so here are a few more:

At Marielle's farm in New Brunswick:


Malcolm and a zucchini


In the garden


Getting to know the (stationary) 4 x 4


A dream come true


Could this get any cooler?

On the "Things That Go" theme, I snuck in a photo taken at the Cumberland Heritage museum in mid July:


All aboard!  With Edward and Martin

Back in New Brunswick, but still on the vehicles theme:


Keith in our (stationary) mini van




Bonfire sunset



Snack time at the cottage


A pensive Keith

Summer in Shediac

We had a wonderful time at the cottage this summer!  Here are a few pictures to enjoy:



Ann (Grammy) had an addition put on the cottage to increase its functional space.  Well planned and executed, it made a huge difference!  Here is the new eating area.  There is also a new bathroom with a tub, and a new bedroom + loft space.


The first bonfire of the season


This is what it's all about!


Well, and, of course this too:  sticky, pink marshmallow hands


Up to the warf for an ice cream


At the beach with Molly


Merman Keith and Colin


Shucking corn


One of Evelyn's favourite things:  baking with Pinie


On the lawn with Eric


We had beautiful, HOT weather (such a change from last year), but we were happy there was at last one day cool and wet enough for hot cocoa.

Tuesday, September 1, 2015

Hello!

Hi everyone,

I'm working through a lot of great pictures taken in New Brunswick, while trying to tie up a lot of little loose ends that are cropping up before school starts next week (The Ducklings in SK, Malcolm in preschool!).... and before I go back to work after 5+ years next month....so that explains the radio silence.

Oh, and we also had a tremendously awful bout of the stomach flu.  We're STILL recovering, and it's been well over 10 days after the initial onset.  But we're chugging along, as per always.

In any case, we had a lovely time down east.  Thanks to the Cast of Many who made it wonderfully down tempo for Edward and I.  I think we really needed the time to catch our breath.

More to follow!

Thursday, July 30, 2015

Our Week

Well, we bundled all four kids (plus Edward) onto the plane yesterday afternoon, so they can begin their much anticipated almost month long sojourn at The Cottage in Shediac.  

We always travel Porter airlines; firstly because they offer the shockingly serendipitous direct flight between Ottawa and Moncton.  But just as importantly, they offer beer as soon as you're airborne. When you're travelling alone with four small children, alcohol + altitude = enough serenity to almost overlook the fact that you're travelling alone with four small children.  You know it's bad when the gate attendants struggle to make sense of: "Yes, they're all going.  No, I'm not going with them.  Yes, he'll be alone with all of them", and eventually manage to gasp  "Wow... alone".

And then, my friends, my mother (who also accompanied us to the airport) and I might have danced a small (very sad, very mournful) jig, and told each other that we would wait to see them actually board the airplane just so we can cast one more loving gaze at those sweet little children... when secretly, I think we both wanted to make sure they absolutely, 100% got on said aircraft.  Or else.  And then my mother and I ran to the mall, where I bought a freezer and my mother might have had a (not at all) celebratory ice cream cone.

So yes, for the first time in over five years, I am alone at home for more than 3 hours.  Well, Sprocket is my companion, but he is presently alternating between staring at the front door and staring at me, wondering where everyone has gone.  This is after he frantically searched the entire house numerous times yesterday, looking for them.  Or perhaps he, too, has been cast aloft by the Wings of Liberty and is, in fact, keeping a close eye on that front door to ensure they don't come back... too soon.  Yes, perhaps.  Eventually, I will join Edward in New Brunswick, as will my mother, and Sprocket will be treated to his vacation at Myriam's house.   This is the ideal win-win-win situation, and I have a ton to do before I leave.  But for now, tea and blogging is the order of business!

On that note, I wanted to thank all of you who came to my father's celebration of life on Saturday.  I am thrilled it unfolded so smoothly, and was so well attended.  I am particularly pleased for my mother, as what better tribute to my father than to have people share their happy memories of him?  The tone was light and joyful and truly focussed on his life, which was our hope, as my father would have greatly appreciated that, over a somber ceremony that focussed primarily on his death.

I think it is a true testament to his personality that people who may seem, at first glance, to have been peripheral in his life - the family who ran his favourite Vietnamese restaurant, the pool desk receptionist, his dentist and dental hygenist - made the effort to come and share in his celebration.   My father had the gift of making no one in his life feel "peripheral".  He was genuinely interested in everyone he engaged in conversation; a function of both his energetic curiosity and his empathetic nature.  He cared.  And those people in attendance on Saturday clearly reciprocated and amplified his caring.

A very heartfelt appreciation to those who came to support my mother - and me.  As much as my sister, mother and I have heavily leaned on each other in the past few months, there is something about a "bosom friend", to quote Anne of Green Gables, whose mere presence can do so much to uplift, steady and nourish.  There were my mother's friends in attendance who where at Lake Louise, that summer of '62, when my parents met for the first time.  There were friends of mine whom I have known since Grade 7.  

Thank you so much for being there.






Tuesday, July 21, 2015

This Face


Happily, the spaghetti sauce completely covers the black, blue, purple and yellow chin courtesy of a face-plant into the sideboard.  It does not cover his swollen left eye, which was a reaction to a mosquito bite we got from our sojourn to Mud Lake in search of ducklings (check), turtles (check) and catfish (? check).

This also does not show the...lice.  Yes, we came down with lice that happily settled into Malcolm, Colin and Evelyn's hair.  I think we managed to get on top of the situation in the nick of time, and by luck, we already had a bottle of the special treatment shampoo on hand.  We're hoping we're at the tail end of it now, as Colin was the last to be infested and that was a week ago today.  We have done tons of laundry in hot washes, spent literally hours combing through hair, and have sent bags of stuffies "on vacation" in our hot car.

Ah yes, life does move on; ready or not.

We look forward to seeing many of you on Saturday morning!

Tuesday, July 7, 2015

Goodbye, Opa.

Thanks everyone, for all your best wishes and support over the past month.  As I've said to many of you, this is a very difficult road to walk.  But you have to walk it; you can't take a shortcut, or delegate your steps.

That being said, I've been incredibly fortunate to have so many wonderful people guide and support me along the way.  Edward, who has been my absolute rock; Martin and Andrea, Ryan and Cristina who freely gave their evenings so that Edward and I could go to the hospital to visit my father; Jane and Gillian who provided a sympathetic ear, hugs and entertainment for a bevy of children; Myriam, who valiantly kept the house and children in one piece through the turmoil and uncertainty; everyone who visited my father, sent e-mails, phone calls and  thoughts and prayers our way.  It is a sad and exhausting road, but your compassion and care made me feel that we were not alone.

Most of all, I owe deep gratitude to my mother and sister, for having the courage and love to let my father go.  I am very proud that we kept his best interests at the heart of our decision to pursue palliative care for him; we knew that my father could not be a passive bystander in his life.  He was a passionate and engaged participant.  His seizure and cognitively debilitating second stroke made it clear to us that any future he might have would not have met the quality he deserved.   Nevertheless, it took tremendous fortitude to see him through to the end.   He died yesterday morning, exactly one month after his first stroke.  My mother, sister and I are grateful that his decline and demise represent only a tiny fraction of an almost eighty year life very well lived and very well loved.

We will be having a Celebration of my father's Life on Saturday, July 25 from 11-2pm at the beautiful Capital Funeral Home located at 3700 Prince of Wales Drive.  Please feel welcome to attend.

At the moment, it's very hard for me to eulogize my father.  So I think it is most fitting to leave that to his grandchildren, who were, after all, the greatest joy in his life.  The video linked below was taken on Friday, as my kids worked on a "Hug Blanket" for Opa.  We hung it on the wall of his hospital room, and yesterday morning, right after he died, his wonderful nurse draped it over him.  We all know he would have wanted that last hug more than anything else.

What We Love About Opa


We love you, and will miss you, Dad.  Heaven is a place in a loved one's heart, Dad, and you'll live on in ours forever.

Friday, June 26, 2015

Update

We've been very busy gearing up for the last few days of school, and now summer has finally, officially arrived!  The kids have a long list of fun things they want to do, including a making a lemonade stand (I think we have a few business-minded offspring....), traveling on a double-decker city bus, and spending the afternoon at the wading pool with a picnic.  It all sounds wonderful, and I can hardly wait to get outside!

Unfortunately, my father has had a setback on his stellar road to recovery.   On Wednesday, he had an excellent day, and even managed to get to the physio gym under his own steam, with a walker.  But that night, he had a seizure; followed by another possible seizure Thursday morning and now he is in the Intensive Care Unit.   While his vitals look great, and the tests came back very positively (no changes in his brain, no ongoing seizures), he has yet to regain consciousness.  We are very much in a wait and see situation, as his neurologist cannot explain why my father isn't rebounding now that he is stable.

At present, he is inaccessible to anyone but immediate family, but should that change, I will update accordingly.

Saturday, June 13, 2015

Friday, June 12, 2015

Better Times

Thanks everyone for your well wishes, and offers of help and support; these have meant so much to us over the past six days.  We are nowhere near establishing a "new normal", but we are inching in that direction, one hour at a time.

My father is recovering really well.  In fact, he is out of the Neurology Acute Care Unit (NACU), and up on the neurology ward.  He was moved there last night, and I had the privilege of helping him settle into his new digs.   

He is still having a hard time with thin liquids and heavily textured food, which, to those who know him, is likely one of the hardest knocks, given that my father defined the term "foodie" seventy five years before it was cool.  If he focusses mightily on his left hand, he can get it to move a fraction.  His left arm and leg have some range of motion, although the left side of his face is still resolutely unmovable.   His speech is fairly good, and very happily, his cognitive abilities seem unimpaired.   He was getting rather feisty the first few days after his stroke, because he desperately wanted to put his feet on the floor.  And although his constant, single-minded demands served to underline just how helpless we all were - him to move, and us to accommodate him safely - I was relieved to see that he could still muster a healthy dose of impetuousness.   Apathy isn't what you want to see in these situations.  The doctors think that he is an excellent candidate for rehabilitation, and I know my father is looking forward to doing something productive with the days he finds so long.  

When I compare where my father is now with how he was at approximately 8:05pm last Saturday night, I am amazed.  But when I compare him now to the person he was at 8:04pm, well... that's the sad part.  But we are extremely fortunate to be where we are, and we are deeply grateful these comparisons can be made at all.

In the meantime, we've had a few lovely distractions here at home.  Of course, there is this guy:



The Ducklings have been a little sad, scared and confused about Opa's medical situation.  Edward and I have worked hard to comfort them, and to generate feelings of optimism and acceptance, but this is hard even for adults.   Malcolm, on the other hand, is his usual happy go lucky self.  He is greatly looking forward to having cake this weekend for his birthday - cake being his most favourite thing ever - and we've been swimming this week, playing in puddles, rescuing worms, reading books, cuddling, grocery shopping, and all of those things that re-establish a bit of equilibrium and forward momentum in times like this.  As I've said before, kids are great at moving life along.


You will likely have to "bigify" this picture to see our other sweet distractions: four baby bunnies!   Above, there's one eating the clover in the grass, and two more are on the far left, nibbling on the daylily leaves.   At one point, three of them were gathered around the daylily, sitting on their wee haunches and having a snack.  They are supremely hard to photograph; Sprocket has done his due diligence schooling them in their "flight" reactions, so they are a little jumpy.   Pun intended.

Edward and I have decided that we won't be having the open house tomorrow morning.  Our apologies to all.  However, we hope to see many of you over the course of the summer.

Sunday, June 7, 2015

A Difficult Time

Hello all,

My father, beloved Opa, had a serious stroke last night.  He survived, but despite the surgeon's best efforts, they were unable to remove the large clot.  We are presently unsure of the extent of his brain injury.

Luckily, my mother reacted extremely quickly when she realized he was having a stroke, and in doing so, saved his life.  He is receiving top-notch care at the Civic Hospital, and we are all very grateful that that facility is close to both my parents' house, and ours.

I visited him this morning, and he is conscious.  However, the left side of his body is paralyzed.  The nurse believes we will see additional improvement over the next 48 hours.  He is having a CAT scan this evening.

We were very fortunate that my sister, who will be relocating from Petawawa to Colorado Springs in early August, was flying home from Colorado via Ottawa last night and was able to come to the hospital.

We had a lovely dinner at my parents' house last night before the stroke, and I am savouring the memory of rambunctious kids, Opa's ever generous dessert helpings and lots of laughter and happy mayhem.  That memory is keeping me afloat in this difficult time.

At present, I'm not sure if we will have the open house birthday party for Malcolm on the 13th as planned.  It will depend on how the week unfolds.   I will update accordingly.




Wednesday, June 3, 2015

Yikes! Malcolm is Turning Two?!

No one is quite sure when this milestone snuck up on us, but yes, indeed, Malcolm (aka Mr. Man, Boobear) is turning TWO!!

Let's try that again....

TWO!!

This guy:



Rewind two years:


Rewind one year:


And... follow me with the logic here... that is why he has yet to have a (much needed, depending on who you ask) haircut.  I'm in denial.  Total, complete denial that my Baby Z is possibly old enough to need a haircut.

In any case, we're having one of our infamous open-house style your-presence-is-present-enough birthday party extravaganzas to celebrate:

When:  Saturday,  June 13th from 10-12pm
Where:  Our house, rain or shine!

We'd love to see you there!!



Monday, May 18, 2015

Our Week & Weekend


There is art over the mantle, and then there is art on the mantle.  This appeared around our fireplace at some point over the last week.  Myriam noticed it first, and wondered aloud about the identity of the artist.  "It was Colin," Evelyn informed her.  "How do you know that?" Myriam replied, somewhat suspiciously - assigning blame is an Olympic sport around here.  "He signed it", she stated.  Sure enough, there was his proud signature crowning the right-hand column.  I'm relieved that Colin prefers to work in pencil and crayon, and not paint or permanent marker....




The mantle, from afar







If you enlarge this one, you can see Colin's signature at the top


Working on a puzzle


Such a bucolic picture.  You would never know that their rhubarb leaves are flags, and they are signing "Oh Canada" and "Away in a Manger" at the top of their lungs at 8:30am on a Sunday morning.  Our neighbours LOVE us.


Malcolm finally gets to sample the cake batter.  I tried to get him out from underfoot while the older kids baked a cake, by taking him on a trike ride with the dog.  He knew exactly what I was doing, and refused to budge.  He howled the entire way to the park, and I had to carry him half a kilometer.  Did I mention our neighbours love us?


Daddy and Malcolm, watching Thomas this morning.  The Ducklings slept over at Nana and Opa's, so Malcolm had our undivided attention.  He revels in it.


And last but not least, this was an exchange captured this afternoon, as I arrived home with the Ducklings from my parents' house:

Me:  Okay, guys, Malcolm is napping, so we have to go into the house really quietly.  As quietly as possible.  Super silent.  Like a....
Colin:  (grinning broadly) I know Mummy!!  Like a super silent "e".

Monday, May 11, 2015

Accolades and Pirouettes


Last week, Colin won the "Dignity of the Person" award at school.   As you can see, Keith gave him a little helping hand, and a lot of fraternal support.

The second part of the video, taken this morning, demonstrates another happy example of sibling interaction - a Malcolm & Evelyn dance number.  Malcolm is very much into the Monkey See, Monkey Do phase, with all kinds of delightful (and sometimes, from his siblings' perspective, highly annoying) results.






Monday, April 27, 2015

This Week in Pictures...

Presently, we're at a great phase were everything (and I mean, everything) is "Awwwww!!! CY-OOOT".  Small sticks, itty bitty pieces of paper, ants, not to mention the usual suspects of baby animals, babies in general and Sprocket (I know!). 

Evelyn and her best-friend-this-minute found a small grape in Evelyn's lunch this week.  They proclaimed it to be The Cutest Baby Grape in the whole wide world, and swore they would take care of it.  I gently informed her that Baby Grape wouldn't stay in its present pristine condition, so we decided a reasonable substitute would be a small stone she coloured green and wrapped in a piece of Kleenex.

Then, when Evelyn was helping me with lunch over the weekend, she noticed a small pepper growing inside the larger one we were cutting up.  This, she informed me, was the Cutest Baby Pepper in the whole wide world, and she insisted that we put it in a glass of water.  At present, the Baby Pepper seems to be sprouting a root, so we'll put it in some soil and see what happens!



Evelyn, wearing her crown, showing her specially selected stone.


Baby Grape Mk II on the left, and Baby Pepper on the right


Colouring, drawing and letters are huge in our house right now.  Edward and I are pretty laid back when it comes to pushing reading and writing skills, because we believe that this level of skill acquisition must be spurred by each child's motivation, interest and ability (we did learn something from our Potty Training Saga) and not necessarily enforced on a time-table.  Luckily, our school board has heavily invested in play-based learning at the core of the Kindergarten Program, so they also promote a child-centered curriculum that lets the kids move at their own pace. 

In any case, despite our laissez-faire attitude, reading and writing is happening before our very eyes... which, as an aside, is just about the coolest thing.... ever.


Colin's portrait of his alter-ego, Angus the Goat.  Pictured is his yellow tail, green horns, ears, eyes, and beard, a pink nose and a big red grin.  Underneath, Colin took a few stabs at an uppercase "A", before adding an "n", "g", "u" and "s".  It's spelled right to left.  This picture is a real treasure for me because Colin churns out a lot less artwork than his siblings.


Evelyn's attempts at completing the alphabet.  She kept getting stuck on the letter "k".


....so Colin was determined to draw an entire page of "k"s, along with car (kar?) headlights


Malcolm and his blueberry "muffas" this morning.


Our Spring growing projects - Myriam planted some alyssum in the blue pot on the left, the Ducklings came home from school with "real beanstalks!!!" and Evelyn's Baby Pepper in a glass on the right.

Thursday, April 23, 2015

So Big!

This child is growing like a weed!  He's in clothes his brothers wore last year, and with his epic appetite, I can't see this abating any time soon.



"What dis?"
I'm sure you can imagine what the next photo in this series would look like...


"Me help"

We're having so much fun right now with the better weather, going to the Library, and the mall, visiting construction sites, going swimming, to the Agricultural Museum and just hanging out, splashing in puddles.

Today, however, he had an encounter with the Land Shark (aka Sprocket) which left him shaken in his faith that Puppy is his best friend.  The scene:  One last Grammy cookie, being admired by Malcolm moments before consumption, when it dropped right into the gaping maw of The Beast.  Of course, this reinforced the dog's impression that Malcolm is his best friend, like, ever.  Malcolm mournfully admonished Sprocket saying "NO!  Baby cookie!  No Puppy cookie".  But the dog takes no prisoners.... 

This lesson is a rite of passage in our house, and The Ducklings gave their little brother much sympathy.  They've lost choice morsels, a few soothers, pictures (both drawn and photographs!) and even small stuffed toys to the dog over the years....

Easter Travel

This year, as he did waaaaay back in the halcyon days of late April, 2011 (Ducklings were seven months old = challenging schedule, easy kids... now, at 4.5 years old = easy schedule, challenging kids!) Edward travelled to Switzerland to visit my family.

And again, this time, he enjoyed wonderful food and hospitality, well deserved rest and some roving rambles over the breathtaking countryside.


Taken from the vantage point of Hohenklingen, a medieval castle in the vicinity of my father's hometown, Eschenz, which is located on the far bank of the Rhein river, as shown in this picture.  The town in the foreground is Stein am Rhein, which is located on the German side of the river.  If you look closely, you can see the semi-circle forming Stein am Rhein's original town walls, which date to the 13th century.  These sites have been occupied since prehistoric times, and the area is particularly renown for its wealth of archaeological artifacts, especially Roman, which were exceptionally well preserved in the river's silt.


Stein am Rhein's ancient, cobbled roads - now, almost exclusively pedestrian


Views of the Rhein.  


Family church in Eschenz


I'm not very well versed on the flowers of Switzerland, but no matter what they're called, these little gems are gorgeous

Our deepest gratitude to Uncle Alois, Aunt Alice, Aunt Doris, Uncle Niklaus and Irna for making Edward feel so welcome and at home.  He thoroughly enjoyed his trip, we loved his stories... and the goodies he brought home.  We hope to reciprocate your hospitality this summer and fall!

On the home front, I managed really well while Edward was gone.  I did have help from my mother and from Myriam, but I was able to survive, and only had to threaten to cancel Easter once.  It was a real trial by fire, too, because it was Easter holidays, so the kids were home four out of the six days Edward was gone.  It had moments of.... intensity.... but I can definitely see a blue-sky horizon, where the kids are a little more self-sufficient, and little easier to engage and to focus (read: not trying to kill each other with their bare hands).  And, apart from illness and teething issues, Malcolm now sleeps through the night reliably, which was a tremendously fortuitous development when left alone with a bunch of kids overnight.  We were living through colds when Edward was gone (of course!), but my fears of being up all night tending to howling, miserable (and um, incredibly melodramatic) children never materialized.

Small steps, indeed, but a huge leap for the quality of our family life.... only five years in the making!